Molly has been a member of our Small Business Accelerator for a while now and she is an amazing counselor and coach. We thought it would be highly beneficial to get her perspective on shaping your attitude by using affirmations. Enjoy!
From Molly Painschab:
I love mornings. LOVE. Love mornings.
I try not to be obnoxious about it. You won’t find me being overly chipper- but I do pride myself in beating the sun every morning. I get more done in those few hours of solitude than in any other. No distractions. Just me and my routine.
The alarm is set for 4am but my well-trained brain is usually awake by 3:50am. Dogs out, pets fed, dishes ran and a load of laundry in. Then it’s back upstairs to shower, dress, and do something with this crazy hair. Back downstairs to gather my things, leave a note for the family, and out the door if it is a workday. I do enjoy being at the office a full hour before I see my first client.
I have a good 15-minute drive when the weather is good, longer when it’s snowing or icy. It’s in those minutes that I mentally prepare for my day.
EMOTIONAL SUPPORT AND ENCOURAGEMENT
I am a person who truly enjoys what I do. As a therapist I am invited into client’s worlds to witness repair and healing as they recover from old wounds. As a coach I get to act as a tour guide on their journey to discovering who they really are, what they really want, and achieving goals that get them closer to their overall vision of life.
It’s safe to say that just because I like what I do, does NOT mean I am impervious to symptoms of burnout. It happens. To insulate myself and keep my mind right – I incorporate affirmations into my morning commute.
I don’t know about you, but I don’t like “complicated”. If it is simple to add to my life- I’m in. So, when I think about affirmations, I like to keep them short and sassy, usually sticking to one or two that really work for me.
My personal favorite affirmations are: “Actually, I can!” and “Do it for science!”. These may seem silly to some, but when I use affirmations in place of negative self-talk my day is more productive, and I am less likely to be exhausted by the end of the workday.
BE IMPECCABLE WITH YOUR WORD
If you have ever read don Miguel Ruiz’s The Four Agreements, you may be familiar with the agreement: Be impeccable with your word. Words are powerful. They have value and weight according to our personal core beliefs and culture. Thoughts are unspoken words – and they can either be helpful or unhelpful in our lives.
Negative thoughts lead to negative emotions and, often, poor decisions. A client once phrased it as, “If I look at the world through sh*tty eyes, the world looks pretty sh*tty”. Amen.
Using an affirmation for self-encouragement results in a more positive feeling and usually results in the likelihood of making a helpful decision.
WHAT DOES IT MATTER?
Practicing using affirmations is not a guarantee of a better life. It won’t affect the weather, acts of nature, or how other people treat you. Affirmations are for you, and you alone, to shape your attitude as you move through your day or into your future.
Affirmations build resilience. Have you noticed there are some sensitive souls walking the earth these days? Maybe you recognize this in yourself – taking words that were not meant for you, personally. Seeing offense in actions that have nothing to do with you. Practicing self-encouragement and providing yourself with emotional support armors you.
Affirmations motivate. Carefully crafted statements can provide momentum to keep you moving forward! Statements like “Progress, not perfection!” and “Just keep swimming!” stimulate our brains and keep us from getting stuck.
Finally, I find affirmations can be a part of my spirituality. When I am feeling a bit overwhelmed or when I can’t immediately see a way through, I like to use thoughts such as “Kind heart, fierce mind, brave spirit!” or while breathing “In with the light, out with the dark”.
TRY SOME ON
Here are a few more you can try:
I know I can.
I trust in miracles.
I am not alone.
Feelings are not facts.
Expect nothing. Appreciate Everything.
Life is what I make it.
I never give up.
I stand up for my beliefs, morals, and values.
Patience, Kindness, Tolerance, Love.
I live in the moment, while learning from the past and preparing for the future.
CREATE YOUR OWN
What works for me or your friend – will not necessarily work for you. Have fun playing around and creating your own. Tailor them to your needs!
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